Let me share it in story form:
One of our (the hubby and me) favorite movies is, "Dance With Me" with Vanessa Williams. It wasn't so much the storyline that captured our attention. It was the dancing and music. We fell in love with salsa the day we watched it and decided to take classes. We found classes downtown and the first time we went we had a blast, however, our "weak link" began to ooze out. As we danced, he wasn't sure how to lead and I struggled to follow. So, you can imagine me trying to follow and lead at the same time right? We're both looking down at our feet, trying to give each other verbal and physical directions...and it just wasn't working. Our instructor (a 5'4" Asian guy) walked up to us, looked at Patrick and said, "YOU'VE got to LEAD her." Now I'm thinking, "What is this little man going to do with 5'8", who weighed twice as much as he did?" I naturally tensed up not knowing what was about to go down. This little instructor grabbed my hand with so much power, the next thing I knew, I had succumbed to his every cue to step and spin. The more he lead me with authority, the more relaxed I became and following him became natural. It had nothing to do with size, weight, height, who he was, who I was...and it was an awesomely freeing moment.
After leaving the class, my hubby and I both had epiphanies. "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his." (Ephesians 5:22-23) That scripture came alive in our hearts. He was encouraged to lead with authority (Godly power) and I was encouraged to follow (submit). Our marriage hasn't been the same since we danced the Salsa. Enjoy!