An astounding statistic when you first see it. The following are statistics taken from the book, "Food For The Soul" by Maryanne Campbell:
"Some experts say there are between 35 to 45 single black men who are in college or have jobs for ever 100 black women. The more education and income a black woman has, the fewer eligible black men on her level."
"Black men suffer far worse health than any other racial group in America..."
"Black men live 7.1 years less than other racial groups..."
Black men have a high suicide rate. "It is the 3rd leading cause of death in 15 to 24 year olds."
"In 73% of black-white marriages, the husband was black." Black men have white wives 2.65 times more than black women have white husbands. Five times as many black men live with white women as white men live with black women."
Looking at it from a different perspective, I would have the following questions: What if other men of color chose not to (for whatever reason) approach Black women? What if other men of color felt like Black women didn't want to be approached?
Are Black women willing to date outside of Black men?
How many of the 70% statistic are gay and wouldn't date a Black man anyway?
It boils down to this...love is colorless...it really is. Until we reach beyond our fears, filters and judgments, we'll never know how encompassing and unconditional love really is and if those are the walls that prevent you from dating or finding your mate, then shame on you. No one else can be the blame for your "singleness". Yes, I'm married, however, the best boyfriend I ever had was not a Black man. He treated me with respect, wined me, dined me, was very spontaneous and original about his gifts and they were always given with such depth of thought and heart. He was indeed a rare find, but don't forget...he was not a Black man. So, ladies...make sure your single status is not your own doing.
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Well, it's finally here...2009. I'm really glad because 2008 was "hellish". It was a true "trying of my faith"...
2 comments:
I really liked this post when I read it a while back but didn't have time to post a comment to you then.
As someone who married outside of my race and whose friends are mostly non-Asian, I don't see why race matters. My relationships and friendships have always been based on compatibility/interests and not nationality.
I think the difference is a matter of culture and history combined. Unfortunately, history doesn't die easily here in the US (e.g. slavery), neither do stereotypes. It may even be because of a subconscious stereotype (the docile Asian female...of which you are NOT. LOL) that you are readily accepted.
Stereotypes are only erased when we dare to converse about the challenging topics that make our differences harm our relationships. I'm just being honest because I can't even exclude myself from falling into that same trap. I could never imagine an Asian guy being attracted to me, so I wouldn't even THINK to ask one out or meet one. Sad, but true. My own stereotypes (be it true or false) still affect my thinking and possibly my actions. I think that's the case with most African-American women.
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